A dear friend of mine who I have known for close to twenty years is entering her fourth week of a coma following a serious auto accident. She was the passenger in a car when the driver fell asleep. Apparently the car hit a guardrail and careened off the highway, then slammed into a concrete drainage ditch nose first. Julie’s head was slammed so hard against the door frame that it knocked her unconscious.
Long before I knew her, when she was in high school, she was in another tragic accident. A car she was riding in with several other high school friends overturned on the Petaluma bridge. It threw several of them from the car. From what I remember at least one of them died. Julie suffered major injuries including a broken neck, back and head. Her survival from that harrowing experience at such a young age changed her, I am certain.
The one thing I know and admire about Julie is her strength and determination. She has always been so full of life, a ball of eminating energy, a true force to be reckoned with. Her laugh is immediately recognizable and can move a room filled with somber, angry people to break out into laughter at a moment’s notice. Physically, Julie is a sleek powerhouse. A bodybuilder and fitness trainer, she has continued to work hard into her 40’s to maintain her health and her strength. She is truly an inspiration.
Like a lot of us, Julie has struggled with her own share of ugly demons in this life but has continued to face them in order to be there for her beautiful daughter whom she loves dearly. I am so proud of her for fighting the battles she has faced. I know in my heart they have not been easy battles. As her friend there have been many days I wished I could have been there for her when life became so difficult. Even though I wasn’t there for her in person, I know she understands in the quiet spaces of her heart I was always there for her in thought and in prayer.
As she lays there in her hospital bed in her deep, peaceful slumber, I often wonder if her spirit is aware. Can she see and hear her family who love her so dearly as they keep a vigil at her side? Does she reach out to touch them ever so lightly on their cheeks from some unseen distance in an effort to comfort and bring them peace while they wait? Is she strolling through a peaceful valley picking a boquet of flowers to give to her mother and daughter when she returns? Can she see her life play back in a slow motion review and finally understand now what an amazing human being she truly is?
Wherever you are right now my friend, whatever you can see or hear or feel, I hope it is nothing less than peaceful. You deserve peace. You deserve rest. You deserve to understand the arms of those who embrace you with their love are not going to leave you. They are there for you and are waiting for you to open those beautiful blue eyes so you can meet the true gaze of their naked, loving souls.